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Why is dating such a complicated thing?Well, correct me if i'm wrong. For most of us girls (I just assumed you were a girl since.. well, you know) dating is looking for someone to marry and have babies with even though we deny it(for serious women) So the thing with dating is that we cannot have a good time without trying to notice good and bad stuff about a guy and evaluating them.. That's what makes dating complicated. No one is perfect and YES there is a chance that things will NOT work out.. Regardless if you'd want it to or not Because people grow older without growing up. Women in fact remain immature girls, men immature boys.

Modern society doesn't have 'adulthood initiation' of kind that existed in tribal communities. Without proper challenges people don't grow psychologically and cannot attract partners. This is especially true for men because in modern societies the archetype of masculine and aggressive male is being criticized, but it is exactly what women are instinctively and unconsciously looking for. It seems complicating because it is such a dumb concept. It is treated more as a job interview rather than just enjoying someone's company. There is to many proper ways or etiquette of dating, when being yourself goes out of the window. You are being yourself, but limiting yourself... is that really being yourself. Best relationships I had was with friends that grew into something more. People start looking for insecurities, and immediately fet turned off. Dating is a complicated thing because you are too intelligent to adhere to the cultural norms as dictated through favourite night shows to the general public.

As you've probably noted lots of people act out some character that they have seen in their favorite show. If you are intelligent you may see the other half is "acting" and you may feel estranged since they are not being sincere, to themselves or to you.
Another reason is that people are afraid to talk things out, talk about everything Sometimes a bit of theory and knowledge before a practice can help. Everything is complicated in the beginning. You have to practice, practice, practice. oh, yes, this topic has not had enough time dedicated to it in various unbelievably stupid publications (cosmo, seventeen, etc) it really needs to be discussed again. end of sarcasm.
this sort of bullshit belongs better on yahoo answers.

Here are few quick tips that you should consider before you go on your next date.

- fresh breath matters the most
- posture is important (don't slouch)
- be happy (dates find it hard to walk away from happiness), you must not be negative
- mirror slightly the other person
- say date's name at least twice in the conversation
- be attentive and interested
- be clean and use pheromone-based colognes
- don't talk too much about yourself
[1] But the question is still there, how do you 'get it'?

I can suggest several approaches:

1. trial and error. approach a girl whenever there is opportunity (or if there is none, create one!). always pay attention to her reactions to what you say and how you behave. try to correct those actions that look like a turn off

2. hang out with guys that seem to 'get it', and who are always around girls. just being around them will help you 'pick up' things that girls like

3. read a book about it
[2] It is not. For someone mathematics is complicating, for someone else it is not. The same is with dating. Once you "get it", it becomes easy.