### You are viewing a page indexed by search engine. All comments on the topic are put together without order and may be confusing to read. To see organized discussion click here. ###

place is good. but story needs to go down, or the comments will get shuffled and be unreadable! i'll fix it later.. sorry. I'm just not in a good place. I'll just stop. If you want, you can just delete the whole thing. I apologize for the inconvenience. continued - ...I ask her what time she wants me and her friend to drive up tomorrow since tomorrow is her BIRTHDAY. We have an event planned with a lot of friends and I'm actually "Allowed" to come see her. She responds by saying she would prefer if we came after 1pm since she doesn't have to check out of her hotel till then. I respond by asking "Wait - hotel?" She then says, "Yeah, I'm having a stay-cation. It's part of my going off the grid thing."

Why would you wait all week to tell me? wtf is wrong with you? can't you read instructions. reply to idea after you click on it. Damn, I need to relink all these ideas now.. :( -admin Continued - what went wrong. I ask and she won't tell me. But, the person who set us up is a mutual friend. I tell him about this stuff and he tells me she does have issues with me and just isn't telling me. I ask what they are and he says he's not getting in the middle and to talk to her. But, I HAVE TRIED THAT already and she assures me it's in my head. A few days ago, she told me not to expect to hear from her today because she's going "Off the grid." No details after that. So, last night... Continued - I felt stupid. I had these in-person reassurances, but nothing to back it up. I couldn't call her because she doesn't want to talk on the phone. I can't visit her because she's always got a reason why not to. I can barely get a response out of her when I message her. The last time I asked to hang out, she shut me down and promptly told me she was tired and going to bed and put the conversation to an end.

Everything just sucks. All I can do is blame myself, but I can't figure out Continued - I left that day and the oddly cold behavior continued. Communication started dropping more and more. The person who once messaged me 100's of times a day was now down to 2-4 a day - and that's no exaggeration. I'd try to visit for an hour or two, but she'd spark an attitude and shut me down. I kept being confused. The next time we hung out, I brought it up again and she told me it was all in my head. I pointed out that this isn't how things were before. I just got "shooshed." Continued - Suddenly, I was barely hearing from her. I'd reach out, but barely get anything back. I'd ask to hang out, but she'd have oddly cold excuses. For the first couple of weeks, I just chalked things up to her being busy/tired and tried not to dwell on it. You can't run on hot all the time, right?

After about a month, I visit her and try bringing it up. She says everything is fine and that it's all in my head. I'm not a dumb guy, but if she says so (Shrug), I'll just play along. Continued - We could see a bug and an amazing conversation would happen. It was that simple. Enough time went by that I truly thought I found someone who was right for me. I asked her to be my girlfriend and we had one of the best "First dates" I've ever been on. But the best part of it all was sharing each others company. She wanted to see me more after that. There was always a good reason to do so. Shortly after making it official, everything went from blazing hot awesome, to ice cold.
So, I have a girlfriend who I thought we were great together at first. I've had a lot of really shitty relationships in the past and decided to take things slow at first with this new girl. We talked for over two months before making it official. During those 2 months, we spoke day and night - night and day. We live about 45 minutes apart, so the majority of our conversations were held thru instant messaging. I couldn't go 1/2 an hour without hearing from her. Nothing was off topic. Breaking Up and Timing